I'm in a state. Unemployed, single, bored. Surrounded by bad friends. Surrounded by few good ones though. I've got a new life plan. I need to be out of this state by January. I need to be gone and off on my own. I mean even though, I pretty much have been on my own for a while, this would be different. Or would it? Maybe it'd just be the same in a different location. Psh, at this point I really don't care.
Friday, July 11, 2014
IDC
I'm in a state. Unemployed, single, bored. Surrounded by bad friends. Surrounded by few good ones though. I've got a new life plan. I need to be out of this state by January. I need to be gone and off on my own. I mean even though, I pretty much have been on my own for a while, this would be different. Or would it? Maybe it'd just be the same in a different location. Psh, at this point I really don't care.
Tuesday, July 8, 2014
Backpedal, And Then Do It Anyway...
I have this blog post sitting in my draft box. It's basically an article where I (for lack of a better word) bash the horror that is my married friends. I wrote it in an angry state, and after much self reflection, decided not to post it. I know, why am I even mentioning it. I guess I still wanted to make my feelings known. And honestly I do have a great married friend. Jaimie is awesome. Nothing changed when she got married. We still go out, get drinks, adventure, and as always talk about sex. She doesn't judge me, when my relationships fail, or when I act crazy. Her husband doesn't come up in every conversation and thank the gods. I mean I do deal with her constantly trying to set me up with her husbands best friend. But if that's all I have to deal with, then so be it.
The other one, Alex... I've been working on a speech for weeks but haven't summoned the courage to read it to her. The original post went something like this.
"The other married friend has only been with her husband for a year. They married shortly before their one year anniversary, oh, and she was NOT pregnant. She used to be a normal girl and talk about her relationship and sex, and the one day she goes; “I can't because I feel like that's betraying him.” My jaw mentally dropped. Studies have shown that after the first sexual act the feelings of infatuation don't wear off for about a year. *cough* So basically, when they do wear off, and you were stupid enough to get married before making sure you actually knew the other person, lets hope to the gods that you picked the right one. Oh, and when you're so called 'best friend' has only met your husband twice in the space of a year, it seems as though you know you're hiding something, or, you just don;t want to hear what they have to say. Fine. That's how you alienate a friend you've had for 20 years. Married friends don't walk on eggshells around you and your relationship problems, in fact they either try to hook you up with their other non-married friends, or they tell you that, and this is my favourite line; YOU JUST NEED TO STOP LOOKING FOR THE RIGHT ONE AND LET THEM COME TO YOU. (Second to; YOU REALLY JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT.) Because obviously that's how it worked for them, and OBVIOUSLY it'll work with you. It makes me want to light you on fire. My sister, told me the other day that I was unrealistic for expecting my friendships with these girls to remain unchanged. I was hopeful. Now I guess it'll be breakfast once a month while I listen to you tell me how the hubby is sick and he never fold the laundry, or he sweetly made dinner for you last night, And you'll want to know how my exploits have been in the dating world. I'll be hesitant to tell you because you're no longer a true confidant or someone I can go to without being judged. Have fun with your licence and ring. It baffles me that you'll let that change your life. *shakes head*"
I admit, I was angry when I wrote that, but a lot of it still stands. I no longer know her. I am sad that she's chosen this, and yet, I feel the need to call her out on being the most effing shitty friend ever. I mean, sure, I do understand where she's coming from, but honestly, I didn't abandon any of my friends when I was in a relationship. I expect the same. Too much to ask it seems. Why can't you be better. BE EFFING BETTER.
The other one, Alex... I've been working on a speech for weeks but haven't summoned the courage to read it to her. The original post went something like this.
"The other married friend has only been with her husband for a year. They married shortly before their one year anniversary, oh, and she was NOT pregnant. She used to be a normal girl and talk about her relationship and sex, and the one day she goes; “I can't because I feel like that's betraying him.” My jaw mentally dropped. Studies have shown that after the first sexual act the feelings of infatuation don't wear off for about a year. *cough* So basically, when they do wear off, and you were stupid enough to get married before making sure you actually knew the other person, lets hope to the gods that you picked the right one. Oh, and when you're so called 'best friend' has only met your husband twice in the space of a year, it seems as though you know you're hiding something, or, you just don;t want to hear what they have to say. Fine. That's how you alienate a friend you've had for 20 years. Married friends don't walk on eggshells around you and your relationship problems, in fact they either try to hook you up with their other non-married friends, or they tell you that, and this is my favourite line; YOU JUST NEED TO STOP LOOKING FOR THE RIGHT ONE AND LET THEM COME TO YOU. (Second to; YOU REALLY JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT.) Because obviously that's how it worked for them, and OBVIOUSLY it'll work with you. It makes me want to light you on fire. My sister, told me the other day that I was unrealistic for expecting my friendships with these girls to remain unchanged. I was hopeful. Now I guess it'll be breakfast once a month while I listen to you tell me how the hubby is sick and he never fold the laundry, or he sweetly made dinner for you last night, And you'll want to know how my exploits have been in the dating world. I'll be hesitant to tell you because you're no longer a true confidant or someone I can go to without being judged. Have fun with your licence and ring. It baffles me that you'll let that change your life. *shakes head*"
I admit, I was angry when I wrote that, but a lot of it still stands. I no longer know her. I am sad that she's chosen this, and yet, I feel the need to call her out on being the most effing shitty friend ever. I mean, sure, I do understand where she's coming from, but honestly, I didn't abandon any of my friends when I was in a relationship. I expect the same. Too much to ask it seems. Why can't you be better. BE EFFING BETTER.
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